Say it so they can hear it ….

What if I was to tell you there was a simple way to supercharge the requests you make of your children ? You'd at least give it a go right ? Put simply, when someone tells us we have to do something we are ambivalent about, we may feel a strong impulse to assert our own power by refusing or negotiating terms. Whether you are 3 or 103 you are likely to be much more inclined to comply with a request if you can see what's in it for you. Think of the benefit the child derives from co operating with you and put your request in terms of what they value. Instead of "I've had enough of this, it's time to get in the shower." Try "I'm looking forward to our story as soon as you've had your shower."  Whilst parents may value efficiency children don't necessarily share your sense of achievement in meeting the schedule. Children value feeling connected, purposeful and fun.  If you can put your requests of them into those terms you make tap into a natural motivation and save yourself having the nag, threaten or cajole.